‘AITA for taking back a shawl’ Reddit post has users in unanimous agreement over family drama

Popular posts tend to be spicy debates but this week’s “AITA for taking back a shawl” surprisingly has readers on the same page. It has garnered over 15K upvotes in just four days.

As usual, the topic is based on family confrontations so let’s break it down.

Reddit’s ‘AITA for taking back a shawl’

The OP is a husband involved in his wife’s family dilemma. The wife, Lena, has a tradition of crocheting shawls for her brothers’ bride for the wedding reception.

Her brother, George, is the latest sibling to marry but Lena doesn’t have a relationship with him since he abused her during childhood. Meanwhile, the OP works with George on the same team.

Despite her poor relationship with George, Lena agreed to crochet his fiancee a shawl, per her mother’s request. She is also attending the wedding.

Earlier this week, OP gave the soon-to-be groom the finished shawl at work, but days later, Lena notified OP that George’s fiancee had uninvited her to the wedding as the location was too small. However, OP was still invited to the wedding.

The user was furious with the news and took the shawl back from George’s work desk, leaving a note saying that he would no longer attend since Lena was uninvited. OP suggests that Lena was initially invited so the bride would receive the handmade gift.

However, Lena was upset that he “caused an uproar in her family” as they were now calling her petty.

“Lena wants me to give it back. I don’t think I should, they don’t deserve Lena’s kindness,” the husband wrote. “However, at the same time, I don’t want Lena to be upset with me over George and a shawl.”

Redditors rule OP as NTA

The Redditors have spoken: OP is not the a****** as he was simply defending his wife in her family issues.

“It was extremely rude to uninvite your wife but still ‘allow’ you to come,” one commented. “No point giving the shawl back now. What’s done is done.”

OP has been praised as a “rockstar” for sticking up for Lena, but they also all agree that his wife should have voiced her own opinion instead.

“Lena needs to stand up for herself and not be a darn doormat for her family,” a user wrote. “If they think it’s fine that Lena gets uninvited but thinks Lena is petty for you taking the shawl back, then why on earth is there still any contact with them?”

A second similarly agreed: “NTA. Your wife needs to learn how to have a backbone. She’s being used for her UNPAID skills and mistreated at the same time.”

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